“Do as I say, not as I do“, is simply not true. Be a shining example to your kids. Take the time to honestly examine yourself. Do you like what you see? Would you be proud of your kids if they turned out just like you? If you honestly answered, YES, then congratulations you are a shining example to your kids! However, no one is perfect and if you wish you were a little nicer, a little more polite, wished you didn’t have some of the habits that you have… well, guess what, it’s time to make a change.
It starts with you! You are your child’s strongest role model. Not their friends, not their teachers, not their relatives… YOU! What you do, they will do. If you say it, they’ll say it. If you act irresponsibly, they will act irresponsibly. It really does all start with you.
You brought them into this world and it’s your responsibility to make them productive, well-mannered, respectful, members of society. They need to be confident, proud, inquisitive, responsive to change and growth, possess a strong work ethic, have integrity. These are all qualities that will allow them to be all they can be, as well as become well respected within their community.
It really is all about you, I hate to say. Be not only the person you want to be, but the person you want your child(ren) to be.
I saw a video on Facebook of a 3 year old boy who was yelling and cursing and screaming all kinds of profanities at his parents… at the age of 3! The comments that followed were just as rediculous… “My child would never act like that”, “that child needs a good spanking”, that little boy needs his mouth washed out with soap”. Who are you kidding? This behavior is not the child’s fault, he LEARNED to act that way. The ones that need a spanking and their mouths washed out is not that 3 year old little boy, but his parents and the adults he hangs around with! Do you think he came out of the womb acting and speaking like that? Nooooo. Someone taught him that behavior and that tone of voice and the words he chose to use. That is what he lives with every day. He is merely mimicking what he is used to hearing. Soooo, if you don’t want your 3 year old to act this way, YOU need to stop acting this way.
Being polite, well-mannered, respectful of others, comes from the adults raising the child. Think about what you are doing and saying when you are around your children or any children for that matter. Think twice before you bark out something you may regret.
Your kid’s success and ability to shine, depends on you! Happy kids come from happy families. Playful kids come from families that encourage play. Respectful kids come from families that are respectful to each other. What is your family teaching your children? Think about it, it’s never too late for a change and it’s never too late to have a happy childhood. Start yours today!
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